As a parent of an adult child, the only way to work with the relationship is to approach it outside of already existing expectations. In other words, your son or daughter has a certain fixed idea of you, and he or she will approach you from that view, and you probably do the same thing. However, you can approach your child from beyond that usual style, outside of that style, as though you had just met him or her. It would be as though you were meeting her for the first time, as somebody else, or she met you as somebody else. The two of you meet and become friends.
From “Family Karma,” in Work, Sex, and Money: Real Life on the Path of Mindfulness, page 140
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