Student: What is the difference between aggression and conquering?
Chögyam Trungpa: In this case, conquering is not so much aggression; it’s more a sense of inspiration. If you are really hungry, you have a fantastic relationship with food. Let’s say it’s a hot dog. For many days, you want to have a hot dog. And finally you have a hot dog. You can actually have it on your paper dish, or whatever dish you have. You have a fantastic relationship with the hot dog. You eat it with complete delight and complete communication. That could be said to be a very aggressive trip. But I don't think that's true, actually, because you have open-mindedness toward that particular hot dog. You have designed visualizations and devotions and you have a sense of longing for your hot dog, and everything’s completely softened. You become softened, a soft person and a reasonable person. You have a hot dog, and you can eat that hot dog very beautifully, you know. You hold it in your hand and you feel it. You take a bite, and you chew it and feel the goodness of it at the same time. So it’s a very real experience. That seems to be the difference between conquering, or expanding, and aggression, which is, you know, just completely off the wall.
From "Kagyu Lineage/Mishap Lineage," in The Mishap Lineage: Transforming Confusion into Wisdom, page 15.