One has to think about one’s problems personally, honestly, and genuinely. Transferring the ox’s load to the cow, who is weaker than the ox, means not wanting to deal with anything on your own. In English, we call this “passing the buck.” But we are supposed to be cutting down chaos and creating less traffic in the samsaric, or confused, world altogether. We could invite other people to be our helpers, but we cannot pass the buck to them. So don’t transfer the ox’s load to the cow.
From “Disciplines of Mind Training” in Training the Mind and Cultivating Loving-Kindness, page 98