The real way to share our understanding with others is to cheers ourselves up to begin with. Then, when we communicate with others, it should be very moving. Tenderness is based on touching the aspect of ourselves that is positive but at the same time slightly sad. We are talking about a human situation and how to feel like a human being. The humanness that exists within us is perhaps like a woman's womb, which is very sensitive and which nurtures life and is capable of giving birth. The heart of the Shambhala approach is this fertile gentleness.
From "Unconditional Confidence" in Smile at Fear: Awakening the True Heart of Bravery, page 95.
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