Confidence brings the natural dignity of gentleness. You can afford to be gentle. You are not pretending to be gentle in order to achieve something by it, but you have a general sense of gentleness, which means you are being kind to yourself. Sometimes when the warrior feels doubtful about himself, he might have a problem being gentle to himself. Gentleness to yourself is necessary for a warrior; otherwise you find yourself puffed up, with no way to expand your vision to a great level at all. At that point, warriorship becomes pure bluff.
From "Outrageousness," a talk given in July 1978 to Directors of Shambhala Training.