Humility is the vessel that accommodates the neuroses of others. Then, having been accommodated, their neuroses are transformed. So it is very important for us to realize that humility, gentleness, and genuineness are absolutely necessary if we are interested in working with others. And if we are not, then we are not actually practicing dharma, the Buddhist teaching, at all.
From “Another Year, Another Zafu,” in The Best of the Vajradhatu Sun, February/March 1980.