Introduction: Refocusing the Conversation about Desire    vii

Part One. Discovering the Many Faces of Sexual Desire
    1. Opening Yourself to Sexual Desire    3
    2. The Four Energies That Spark Sexual Desire    13
    3. What’s “Normal”?    23
    4. The Quest for Partnership    37
    5. Ménage à Moi    51

Part Two. Why Women Say No to Sex—And How to Find Your Way Back to Yes
    6. Losing Yourself in Your Partner    65
    7. Are Men the Problem?    81
    8. Bringing Up Baby    97
    9. Beyond Monogamy    113
    10. Living Curly in a Straight Culture    131
    11. Abuse and Trauma    147

Part Three. Expanding Your Beliefs about Sexual Desire
    12. Sacred Union    169
    13. What Women Want    183

Afterword: Like Fine Wine—When Desire Ripens with Age    191
The Extragenital Matrix    194
Suggested Readings (and Viewings)    196
Resources    203
Appreciations    206
Index    208
About the Author    210