How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Taught by David Richo

Regular Price: $89.00

Special Price $59.00

 - Online Course

Love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present. In this online course, psychotherapist and author David Richo presents the five keys to being present to the one you love—attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing—and teaches you how to strengthen your relationships by embracing these five qualities.

David Richo has been writing and teaching about relationships for the past twenty years. This unique course is suitable for anyone who’s involved in any form of relationship—whether it’s working well or not. Dave’s teaching is also a great opportunity for therapists to learn practical ways to bring mindfulness into the realm of relationships.

Course Materials

Six video talks by David Richo—each about 15 to 20 minutes in length—with transcripts and audio versions available

Homework assignments and reflection questions to help you integrate the teachings into your daily life

Guided reading assignments with downloadable PDFs from the books How to Be an Adult in Relationships, When the Past Is Present, How to Be an Adult in Love, and Daring to Trust by David Richo

Unlimited access on your computer, mobile device, or tablet—learn at your own pace wherever and whenever works best for you

This course is also available in a Group Study Version, which includes a facilitator's guide and everything you need to bring this course to your community.


Upon completion of this course, you’ll be able to:

  • Describe the effect that childhood forces can have on adult choices and patterns in relationships
  • Identify the five As and explain the role they each play in mindful, loving relationships
  • Identify characteristics of a suitable candidate for an adult relationship
  • Describe the three major phases of relationships
  • Distinguish healthy conflict from stressful drama
  • Apply practices for successfully navigating conflict and showing love in a relationship
  • Describe fears of abandonment and engulfment in the context of relationships and identify practices for dealing with them
  • Describe strategies for handling the end of a relationship
What You Will Learn in Each Lesson

Lesson 1
Recognizing That the Past Is Present

In the first lesson of the course you will learn how to let go of negative impacts from childhood on your adult life so your relationships can be healthier. You will also learn how to locate and cherish the positive results and the gifts that have come to you from your past.

Lesson 2
Finding a Suitable Partner

In Lesson 2 you will explore how to recognize and attract adult love. You will learn about the characteristics of a suitable candidate for an adult relationship. You will also examine the roles that trust, lovingkindness, and integrity play in adult relationships.

Lesson 3
Embracing the Stages of Relationships

The third lesson of the course looks at the three major phases of relationships: romance, conflict, and commitment. Relationships aren’t meant to stay in the romance phase. This lesson will help you understand how relationships can evolve through these three phases to reach their full potential.

Lesson 4
Dealing with Conflicts

Conflict is one of the three major phases in a relationship. In this lesson you will explore some of the dynamics that can rest at the heart of relationship conflicts. You will learn how to distinguish healthy conflict from stressful drama. You will also learn practices for successfully navigating conflict and showing love in a relationship.

Lesson 5
Navigating Fears of Intimacy and Commitment

Learning to navigate fears within a relationship is a normal—and necessary—part of mindful loving. In this lesson you’ll examine the central fears in a relationship: abandonment and engulfment. You’ll also examine jealousy, infidelity, and disillusionment in the context of navigating fear, and you’ll learn practices for dealing with fears.

Lesson 6
Handling Endings, Deepening Commitment

In this lesson you’ll explore how to handle the end of a relationship. You’ll also learn how to deepen your commitment in an ongoing relationship for the benefit of your relationship and the entire world.

Praise for David Richo

“How we relate to our ego—the sense of ‘I’—determines our suffering and our freedom. David Richo does a brilliant job unpacking the unhealthy versions of ego that confine us. Through psychological and Buddhist wisdom teachings and a range of powerful practices and meditations, we are guided beyond the identity of separate self to the loving awareness that is our deepest essence.” —Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

“A wealth of practical advice on how to unhook and disentangle yourself from the myriad unhelpful thoughts, beliefs, self-judgments, and self-concepts that we often refer to as ‘ego.’ If you want a healthier, happier, more compassionate relationship with yourself, this is for you.” —Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living 

“David Richo uses concepts from neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhism to show us how to make a friend of our ego, that oddly obstreperous, often tyrannical—but ultimately useful—chimera.” —Norman Fischer, author of Experience: Thinking, Writing, Language, and Religion and What Is Zen? Plain Talk for a Beginner’s Mind 

About the Instructor

David Richo round

David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a teacher, workshop leader, and psychotherapist in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California. He combines Jungian, transpersonal, and mythic perspectives in his work. He is the author of many books, including You Are Not What You Think: The Egoless Path to Self-Esteem and Generous Love and How to Be An Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving.

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