Training in Tenderness
This is a call to a revolution of heart. In Tibetan Buddhism, it is taught that one of the most essential qualities of enlightenment is tsewa, a form of warm energy and openness of heart. It is the warmth we express and receive through empathy with others, especially those closest to us. In this compact gem of a book, Dzigar Kongtrul opens the door to this life-changing energy and shows us how to transform our attitude toward ourselves and those around us through its practice. And through its practice, we can actually heal our fractured world.
This is a guide to the building blocks of compassion and the purest and deepest form of happiness. And with these tools, we can awaken the most powerful force in the world—a tender, open heart.
"Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche is one of the most highly qualified people I know. . . . I am hopeful that Rinpoche’s new book will help many of us get to know and make the best of our own warmth of heart. May Training in Tenderness help to heal the anxiety and polarization of our world!" —Pema Chödrön, author of When Things Fall Apart
"A warm and affectionate heart frees us from whatever binds us and connects us empathetically with all beings. This simple yet life-changing attitude makes our own life meaningful and has the power to heal the world. I strongly encourage anyone who encounters Kongtrul Rinpoche’s beautiful book to take its profound wisdom to heart." —Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, author of The Joy of Living
"Kongtrul Rinpoche delivers a series of profound explorations and expositions on one of the most important aspects of our spiritual practice—uncovering the tender warmth and affection in our hearts. This tenderness is the root source of all that is truly beneficial in the world. Rinpoche leads us through a foundational training for compassionate vision and our own liberation, with joyful diligence and an open heart." —Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Love
"Let this gem of a book be your faithful guide and companion in opening your heart to others. It unlocks the door to that most precious human quality of all: unconditional tenderness for all beings." —Matthieu Ricard, author of Altruism and Happiness
"Deep, inspiring, and disarmingly simple, this book demonstrates our innate capacity for tenderness. A warm heart is the source of compassion, loving-kindness, and equanimity, even in the face of death. Thanks to the clear mind and kind heart of Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche, we now have a guide to cultivating this most precious quality and letting it shine out to the world." —Jan Chozen Bays, author of Mindful Eating
"It is possible to cultivate true happiness in all aspects of our daily lives and to change our reality—and that of the people around us—in the process. It’s all about arousing the warmth of heart that is our birthright as humans. Dzigar Kongtrul’s potent instruction manual shows you how." —Lodro Rinzler, author of Love Hurts
"With clarity, brevity, and grace, Kongtrul ably conveys his hopeful vision that all individuals can ‘live a life full of joy, meaning, and profound value to the world.’" —Publisher’s Weekly starred review