“Good job!”—it’s our all-purpose, feel-good, non-specific verbal praise, especially when we talk to our kids. However, research shows that generic praise is insufficient and sometimes even backfires in our relationships with children; it often signals a reinforcement of unstated behavioral expectations. Psychotherapist Mitch Abblett shows us how learning how to skillfully “prize” a child—rather than mindlessly praise—can be a game changer in your relationship as a parent or teacher.
Prizing is a gift offered from clear-seeing and compassionate presence, with its only agenda being connection to and empowerment of the child. Abblett introduces us to the skills of prizing and shows us what it looks like in real-life situations. He shares stories of how prizing has made a real difference in the lives of young people and offers practices for cultivating it at home and in educational and therapeutic settings.